Saturday, 3 August 2013
Charlie's Little arm cards?
So we were in a cafe today , when Charlie spots a group of slightly older boys with their family and in a flash he is off (never backwards about coming forwards!). It takes a couple of seconds for the boys to weigh him up and the questions to start, those of you with little armers know how it goes. So I sit back and watch for a minute as I like to try and let Charlie deal with these situations himself now, but one little boy is being persistent "how did you break your arm, how did you break your arm?". I can tell his mum is trying her best, but not liking to let the misconception continue I wander over and gently tell him "Charlie was born with one hand, this is his little arm". Now the older boy joins in, "but how does he eat his dinner?", I point to Charlie's hand and say, "with this hand", he asks again, but this time his mum manages to distract him and change the subject. At this point I thought, if only I had a business card to hand over with the address of this page on it!!! Come and see just how well he manages!! Inappropriate? I'm not sure, but maybe I may jot the address down on some scraps of paper just in case.......
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Introducing Nurayn and family
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Nurayn’s story
Nurayn joined our family 2 years and 5 months ago. She was born in Pretoria, South Africa. Her name means light, twin lights to be more precise. And she is definitely full of light.
On the day she was born, we discovered that her right arm was not fully developed. She has no elbow, her humerus and radius are fused, she has two fingers on her right hand and there are some shoulder complications but we are not sure what yet. Her left hand is 'normal'.
Nurayn has an older brother, Salif, who is 5 years old. My husband and I decided late in our lives to become parents. I also have a chronic condition called rheumatoid arthritis, so the decision to have children was a conscious one and carefully considered. There were a number of risks which were carefully mitigated, with the help of a super gynaecologist/ obstetrician. The only issue we faced with the birth of Salif was that I had a huge flare of the arthritis after the caesarian.
We were doubly cautious in planning the next pregnancy, with advice from my rheumatologist sought prior to even attempting to fall pregnant. I was told that of the drugs I was on, the only one I needed to worry about was a drug called methotrexate. In retrospect, we have wondered whether another drug that I was not weaned off, Azapress, might have had a role in causing the disability.
We have been told that the cause can never really be determined, and we don't worry too much about pursuing it. One day maybe Nurayn will want to know what the cause was and we probably need to be ready then.
Right now, Nurayn is a bubbly, bossy, independent, talented 2 year old. This picture is Nurayn at her second birthday. She receives Occupational Therapy and physiotherapy once a week. She uses her right arm for almost everything. We are engaging an orthopaedic surgeon and prosthetist to investigate a prosthesis for her, mainly to prevent scoliosis and also to give her better balance. After having researched this element a bit, I came to the conclusion that should Nurayn chose to use a prosthesis later in life, her choice will be easier to implement if she already had the habit of something on her arm from an early age. (I am aware that the rejection rate of arm prosthetics is high). At the same time we don’t want to limit her natural ability, so we envisage a situation where she will wear it half the day and will not wear it the other half. I would welcome any comments or suggestions on this issue.
I would also like to start a conversation about the choice of primary school for Nurayn. What is the advice from parents or adults with limb differences? Would like to hear from others on any advice you can offer. In the meantime, we love reading all the stories on the dysnet newsletter and take bucketloads of inspiration from them.
Written by tcarrim, published less than a minute ago. This story is also published in the DysNet community.